The best sex

So now that I have your attention …

Susan and I were being interviewed last night in Toronto by V Formation Productions on the subject of “real love” for a documentary they are putting together. Their vision is to create a “real love movement”. The entire idea behind the documentary is that we as a society have really moved away from what real love essentially is.

Your benefit at my expense.

As the interview progressed, we started talking about sex, because hey let’s face it – God really outdid himself when he thought up that one. Sex is intended to be the ultimate expression of commitment and intimacy two individuals can share: spirit, soul and body. The best sex, without question, is the sex that is shared with someone who has committed their entire being to you.

Without the ultimate expression of commitment, you can’t have the best sex. Your commitment is with reservation. You could get married, but you won’t because you don’t believe in it, or it’s just a piece of paper, or other such ridiculous excuses to not be ALL IN committed.

The bottom line friends, is that the best sex in the world is shared between two individuals who have abandoned the idea of being with anyone else, for one another.

The idea that living together is being as committed as those who are married is a juvenile idea. When two people decide to live together, that’s pretty much the depth of the agreement. We agree to live together. Let’s try this out.

Without question, many marriages fail – but that’s not the point. The point is that marriage isn’t a private agreement between two people. When you say  ”I do”, there are witnesses. Your commitment is public. The closest people in your life sign their names to your covenant commitment, and it’s intended to be ’till death do you part, baby.

Back to the best sex…

In marriage, the commitment is: “forsaking all others to have sex only with you.” Well, I say “cleave” when I officiate the ceremony so grandma doesn’t blush, but that’s really what I’m implying.

If you are single and want to have the best sex in the world, give yourself sexually to someone who is willing to abandon everyone else and commit solely to you – spirit, soul, body. Don’t settle for less. I have counseled many who did, and as they say: “discipline weighs ounces, regret weighs a ton.”

If you are married and you aren’t experiencing the best sex in the world, then I will speak to the men here: Everything going on in your relationship outside the bedroom has a direct impact on what’s going on inside the bedroom. Get your game together my friend – whatever you did to get the girl, you better keep doing to keep the girl. Your marriage is worth it.